{"id":9289,"date":"2014-03-14T10:41:30","date_gmt":"2014-03-14T09:41:30","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/popelky.cz\/pokus_sablona\/?p=9289"},"modified":"2019-01-04T10:42:13","modified_gmt":"2019-01-04T09:42:13","slug":"k-ranni-kave-sebehodnota-neroste-na-strome-ale-bohuzel-casto-na-druhych","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/popelky.cz\/verze7-0\/ranni-kavy\/k-ranni-kave-sebehodnota-neroste-na-strome-ale-bohuzel-casto-na-druhych.html","title":{"rendered":"K rann\u00ed k\u00e1v\u011b: Sebehodnota neroste na strom\u011b, ale bohu\u017eel \u010dasto na druh\u00fdch"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Napadalo m\u011b, \u017ee by v\u00e1s tohle t\u00e9ma k rann\u00ed k\u00e1v\u011b a sou\u010dasn\u011b na v\u00edkend t\u0159eba mohlo zaj\u00edmat. Je to toti\u017e pom\u011brn\u011b z\u00e1va\u017en\u00e9, i kdy\u017e ne ne\u0159e\u0161iteln\u00e9.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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Zav\u010dasu se to d\u00e1 \u0159e\u0161it \u00fat\u011bkem, p\u0159eru\u0161en\u00edm kontaktu, nebo prost\u011b vyh\u00fdb\u00e1n\u00ed se takov\u00e9mu modelu.<\/p>\n

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Tedy pokud nejste \u017eulov\u00fd kv\u00e1dr, kter\u00fd to d\u00e1, nebo porcel\u00e1nov\u00e1 panenka, po kter\u00e9 to ste\u010de.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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Tak \u010dasto, jak \u010dasto se st\u0159\u00eddaj\u00ed dny v t\u00fddnu, sl\u00fdch\u00e1m: \u201ePro\u010d m\u011b ztrap\u0148uje?<\/p>\n

Nebo: \u201eNikdy bych to od n\u00ed ne\u010dekala, myslela jsem, \u017ee je to kamar\u00e1dka.<\/p>\n

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Je to tak specifick\u00fd rys a je tak frekventovan\u00fd, \u017ee je to a\u017e zar\u00e1\u017eej\u00edc\u00ed.<\/p>\n

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V\u010dera znova.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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To, co jsem v\u010dera sly\u0161ela a co se stalo v m\u00e9m okol\u00ed, je jako p\u0159es kop\u00edr\u00e1k z p\u0159\u00edb\u011bh\u016f, kter\u00e9 zn\u00e1m ze \u017eivota, od klientek, od kamar\u00e1dek, od dcer\u2026odev\u0161ad.<\/p>\n

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V\u0161ichni to zn\u00e1me.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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A v\u0161ichni, kdo jsme se s t\u00edm setkali, to hned z prvn\u00ed nepochop\u00edme a n\u00e1sledn\u011b \u010dasto d\u011bl\u00e1me stejn\u00fd soubor chyb.<\/p>\n

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My to p\u0159ehl\u00ed\u017e\u00edme, my to tolerujeme, my hled\u00e1me vinu v sob\u011b, my se, a to je pak o pr\u016f\u0161vih nakonec P\u0158IZP\u016eSOB\u00cdME!<\/p>\n

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Zn\u00e1te?<\/strong><\/p>\n

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Spole\u010dnost se pr\u00e1v\u011b u\u017e hodinu bav\u00ed d\u00edky v\u00e1m. V\u0161ichni se sm\u011bj\u00ed, nebo jsou zaujat\u00ed t\u00edm, co jim vypr\u00e1v\u00edte. Prost\u011b m\u00e1te sv\u016fj den a pad\u00e1 z v\u00e1s jedna perla za druhou. Je v\u00e1m dob\u0159e, proto\u017ee kdo by n\u011bkdy necht\u011bl zaz\u00e1\u0159it, pobavit druh\u00e9, b\u00fdt ve st\u0159edu.<\/p>\n

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\u201eJe\u0161t\u011b pov\u00eddej!\u201c oz\u00fdv\u00e1 se\u2026<\/p>\n

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Najednou se ozve jeden \u010dlov\u011bk, zpravidla p\u016fjde bohu\u017eel o n\u011bkoho, koho dob\u0159e zn\u00e1te, a m\u016f\u017ee to b\u00fdt i partner.<\/p>\n

Ta osoba \u0159ekne n\u011bco, co je jako jedov\u00fd \u0161\u00edp, jeho\u017e c\u00edlem jste vy.<\/p>\n

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Nech\u00e1pete.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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Pro\u010d to ud\u011blal, pro\u010d v\u00e1s takhle shodil? Pro\u010d ten jed zabalen\u00fd \u010dasto do n\u011b\u010deho zd\u00e1nliv\u011b naprosto nevinn\u00e9ho?<\/p>\n

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Pro\u010d?<\/strong><\/p>\n

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Je to stejn\u00e9, jako kdy\u017e v\u00e1m hladov\u00fd ukradne kus chleba, p\u0159i\u010dem\u017e u hladov\u00e9ho jde o \u017eivot. Vy m\u00e1te v ten moment n\u011bco, co on nem\u00e1.<\/p>\n

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A on to chce.<\/p>\n

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Hodnotu.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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\u0158eknete, pro\u010d tedy jednodu\u0161e nep\u0159evezme \u0161tafetu a nebav\u00ed ostatn\u00ed chv\u00edli on?<\/p>\n

Z jeho pohledu na to nem\u00e1. Nebyl by tak dobr\u00fd, respektive nev\u011b\u0159\u00ed, \u017ee by byl.<\/p>\n

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Jak se tomu \u0159\u00edk\u00e1?<\/p>\n

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Komplex<\/strong><\/p>\n

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V\u0161imn\u011bte si, \u017ee tento \u010dlov\u011bk to patrn\u011b neud\u011blal poprv\u00e9. A nejen v\u00e1m. P\u0159esto se m\u016f\u017ee jednat o \u010dlov\u011bka, kter\u00e9ho m\u00e1te v z\u00e1sad\u011b r\u00e1di. Jinak je hodn\u00fd, ochotn\u00fd a r\u00e1d pom\u016f\u017ee.<\/p>\n

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Jasn\u011b, proto\u017ee ve chv\u00edli, kdy tento \u010dlov\u011bk pom\u016f\u017ee, je to on, kdo je v \u010dele.<\/p>\n

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To jeho pot\u0159ebuj\u00ed.<\/p>\n

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Ale up\u0159\u00edmn\u011b, kolikr\u00e1t tenhle typ \u010dlov\u011bka n\u011bkoho ocenil?<\/strong><\/p>\n

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Kolikr\u00e1t dal n\u011bkomu hodnotu t\u00edm, \u017ee obdivoval ve\u0159ejn\u011b n\u011bco, co d\u011bl\u00e1?<\/p>\n

Nen\u00ed to tak trochu o tom, \u017ee v\u00edce mluv\u00ed o nedostatc\u00edch ostatn\u00edch ne\u017e o jejich p\u0159ednostech?<\/p>\n

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V\u0161ichni jsou debilov\u00e9, ka\u017ed\u00fd je pitomec, v\u0161ichni v\u0161echno kaz\u00ed, nikdo nic neum\u00ed\u2026<\/p>\n

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Je to z\u00e1kladn\u00ed rys a tyhle lidi lze za p\u00e1r dn\u016f podle n\u011bho odhadnout.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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P\u0159edj\u00edmaj\u00ed \u0161patn\u00e9 chov\u00e1n\u00ed d\u0159\u00edv, ne\u017e se ten, o kom mluv\u00ed, \u0161patn\u011b zachov\u00e1.<\/p>\n

Ne\u017e se v\u016fbec n\u011bjak zachov\u00e1.<\/p>\n

\u201eJe to packal, je neschopn\u00fd, nerozum\u00ed tomu, nem\u00e1 zku\u0161enosti \u2026 pod\u011bl\u00e1 to\u201c.<\/em><\/p>\n

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Kdy\u017e to nepod\u011bl\u00e1, stejn\u011b je blbec.<\/p>\n

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O vlastn\u00edch nedostatc\u00edch  NIKDY nemluv\u00ed.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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Zpravidla se stav\u00ed do role ob\u011bti, j\u00ed\u017e ubli\u017euj\u00ed druz\u00ed, ale on za to nem\u016f\u017ee.<\/p>\n

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Pokud je v\u00fd\u0161e uveden\u00fd typ partner, prchejte!<\/strong><\/p>\n

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\u0158eknete te\u010f mo\u017en\u00e1: \u201eNo tak s takov\u00fdm \u010dlov\u011bkem bych p\u0159ece ne\u017eila.\u201c<\/p>\n

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No, mo\u017en\u00e1 \u017eila.<\/p>\n

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On toti\u017e bude p\u0159\u00edmo mil\u00e1\u010dek, pokud n\u011bco pot\u0159ebujete, jste v nesn\u00e1z\u00edch, pot\u00fdk\u00e1te se s probl\u00e9my, kde o\u010dek\u00e1v\u00e1te pomoc, kdy\u017e jste slab\u00e1.<\/p>\n

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Bude ochotn\u00fd, pom\u016f\u017ee do maxima, podpo\u0159\u00ed, ud\u011bl\u00e1, za\u0159\u00edd\u00ed… opravdov\u00e1 zkou\u0161ka p\u0159ijde v moment\u011b, kdy\u017e se v\u011bc u v\u00e1s obr\u00e1t\u00ed.<\/p>\n

Kdy\u017e najednou p\u0159ijde \u00fasp\u011bch, pov\u00fd\u0161en\u00ed, dokon\u010den\u00e9 studium, ocen\u011bn\u00ed va\u0161\u00ed pr\u00e1ce, ve\u0159ejn\u00e1 pochvala a vav\u0159\u00edny\u2026obdiv.<\/p>\n

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Kdy\u017e v\u00e1m najednou spole\u010dnost poklep\u00e1v\u00e1 na ramena a vy o\u010dek\u00e1v\u00e1te, \u017ee nejv\u011bt\u0161\u00ed radost s v\u00e1mi bude sd\u00edlet pr\u00e1v\u011b on.<\/p>\n

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Jestli v ten moment zm\u011bn\u00ed svou tv\u00e1\u0159, jestli v\u00e1s najednou za\u010dne kritizovat a sr\u00e1\u017eet \u010di sni\u017eovat va\u0161e schopnosti, nejl\u00e9pe p\u0159ed t\u011bmi, kdo v\u00e1s oce\u0148uj\u00ed \u2013 ute\u010dte!<\/p>\n

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Proto\u017ee m\u016f\u017ee b\u00fdt i h\u016f\u0159.<\/p>\n

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Jste probl\u00e9m.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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S\u00edl\u00ed v n\u011bm pocit nedostate\u010dnosti.<\/p>\n

St\u00edn, ve kter\u00e9m se on najednou nach\u00e1z\u00ed, je v\u00e1\u0161.<\/p>\n

\u010c\u00edm v\u00edc zaz\u00e1\u0159\u00edte, t\u00edm v\u011bt\u0161\u00ed tmu vrhnete na n\u011bho.<\/p>\n

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Co ud\u011bl\u00e1?<\/strong><\/p>\n

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Bude v\u00e1s zhas\u00ednat.<\/p>\n

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Jak?<\/strong><\/p>\n

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V\u0161elijak, ale nenech\u00e1 toho.<\/p>\n

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NIKDY V \u017dIVOT\u011a, TO NEZM\u011aN\u00cdTE.<\/p>\n

NIKDY V\u00c1S NEOCEN\u00cd.<\/p>\n

NIKDY NEDOC\u00cdL\u00cdTE TOHO, ABY SI V\u00c1S V\u00c1\u017dIL.<\/p>\n

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Jak\u00e9koli uzn\u00e1n\u00ed va\u0161ich kvalit, bude v jeho o\u010d\u00edch sni\u017eovat kvalitu jeho osoby, schopnost\u00ed, mo\u017enost\u00ed, spole\u010densk\u00e9 d\u016fle\u017eitosti.<\/p>\n

Za\u010dne v\u00e1s pomlouvat.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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Nap\u0159ed u t\u011bch, u kter\u00fdch bude c\u00edtit snahu o podporu. \u010c\u00edm v\u011bt\u0161\u00ed ochota pomoci, t\u00edm v\u011bt\u0161\u00ed ob\u011b\u0165 ze sebe ud\u011bl\u00e1.<\/p>\n

Pot\u0159ebuje spojence. Pil\u00ed\u0159. Par\u0165\u00e1ka.<\/p>\n

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Lid\u00e9 z jeho okruhu, kte\u0159\u00ed v\u00e1s neznaj\u00ed, budou na v\u00e1s nahl\u00ed\u017eet jako na hotov\u00e9ho padoucha. Budete to c\u00edtit, jakmile se s nimi sezn\u00e1m\u00edte.<\/p>\n

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Nebudete to ch\u00e1pat.<\/p>\n

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Budete se sna\u017eit b\u00fdt maxim\u00e1ln\u011b mil\u00ed, budete se chovat hezky, ve snaze zm\u011bnit nep\u0159\u00edjemnou energii, kterou vn\u00edm\u00e1te.<\/p>\n

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Zbyte\u010dn\u011b.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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Jedn\u00edm telefon\u00e1tem se postar\u00e1 o to, \u017ee i kdybyste vzbudili pochybnost, jestli jste skute\u010dn\u011b takov\u00e1 sa\u0148, zlikviduje ji.<\/p>\n

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Nedopust\u00ed, aby v\u00e1s m\u011bl r\u00e1d je\u0161t\u011b i ten, kdo m\u00e1 r\u00e1d jeho.<\/p>\n

Ohrozili byste ho. Logicky jen v jeho o\u010d\u00edch, z jeho pohledu.<\/p>\n

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Tak zoufale se boj\u00ed, aby nep\u0159i\u0161el o tu mali\u010dkatou prioritu, \u017ee se postav\u00ed do role u\u010din\u011bn\u00e9ho ob\u011btn\u00edho ber\u00e1nka, kter\u00e9ho vy za\u0159\u00edznete ka\u017ed\u00e9 r\u00e1no znovu a znovu.<\/p>\n

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Nesna\u017ete se napravit si reputaci.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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Jednak je to zbyte\u010dn\u00e9 a jednak to bude zcela kontraproduktivn\u00ed. Pokud m\u00e1 d\u016fv\u011bru v takov\u00e9m prost\u0159ed\u00ed, nikdy to nezm\u011bn\u00edte.<\/p>\n

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Ute\u010dte.<\/p>\n

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Bu\u010fto je \u010dlov\u011bk str\u00e1daj\u00edc\u00ed nedostatkem vlastn\u00ed hodnoty uzav\u0159en\u00fd a ve spole\u010dnosti b\u00e1zliv\u00fd. Trp\u00ed, pokud je ve v\u011bt\u0161\u00ed skupin\u011b lid\u00ed, nebo\u0165 se domn\u00edv\u00e1, \u017ee z\u00e1hy sel\u017ee, nebo, a to je hor\u0161\u00ed, pou\u017e\u00edv\u00e1 druh\u00e9 lidi jako prost\u0159edek k dosa\u017een\u00ed hodnoty.<\/p>\n

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Ned\u016fv\u011bra ve vlastn\u00ed schopnost b\u00fdt platnou sou\u010d\u00e1st\u00ed celku, mal\u00e9 sebev\u011bdom\u00ed se v z\u00e1sad\u011b ned\u00e1 l\u00e9\u010dit, proto\u017ee to nen\u00ed nemoc.<\/p>\n

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Je to vlastnost.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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Je sou\u010d\u00e1st t\u00e9 bytosti a dost \u010dasto m\u016f\u017ee j\u00edt o d\u016fsledek \u0161patn\u00e9ho zach\u00e1zen\u00ed s takov\u00fdm jedincem v d\u011btstv\u00ed.<\/p>\n

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Drtiv\u00e1 v\u011bt\u0161ina t\u011bch, kte\u0159\u00ed pozd\u011bji ubl\u00ed\u017e\u00ed druh\u00e9mu \u010dlov\u011bku, je pr\u00e1v\u011b z \u0159ad t\u011bchto lid\u00ed.<\/p>\n

Za sebe rad\u00edm, do vztahu \u010dlov\u011bkem, kter\u00fd jev\u00ed zn\u00e1mky naru\u0161en\u00e9ho sebev\u011bdom\u00ed \u010di komplexu, se nepou\u0161t\u011bjte.<\/p>\n

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Sebemen\u0161\u00ed kritiku nezvl\u00e1dne, a m\u00edsto zamy\u0161len\u00ed, t\u0159eba kdy\u017e ho na to upozorn\u00edte, p\u0159ejde do proti\u00fatoku.<\/p>\n

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Mohla bych jmenovat \u017eeny (ur\u010dit\u011b se najdou i takto sni\u017eovan\u00ed mu\u017ei)<\/em>, kter\u00e9 se roky vedle podobn\u00e9ho \u010dlov\u011bka nach\u00e1zely.<\/p>\n

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Dopadalo to r\u016fzn\u011b, ale nikdy ne dob\u0159e.<\/p>\n

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Ta v\u010derej\u0161\u00ed je v nemocnici.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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V\u011bd\u011bli jsme v\u0161ichni, \u017ee to jednou tak dopadne.<\/p>\n

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Od chv\u00edle, kdy jsme sed\u011bli u n\u00e1s na zahrad\u011b a ona osoba sv\u00fdm vypr\u00e1v\u011bn\u00edm zcela bezv\u00fdznamen\u00e9 historky, kterou ov\u0161em podala brilantn\u011b, postupn\u011b ni\u010dila na\u0161e br\u00e1nice.<\/p>\n

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Bylo to v den jej\u00ed promoce.<\/p>\n

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Byla za hv\u011bzdu a nav\u00edc m\u011bla titul.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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Ocenil ji slovy: \u201ePan\u00ed in\u017een\u00fdrka je vo\u017eral\u00e1, \u017ee, mil\u00e1\u010dku\u201c.<\/p>\n

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Na\u010de\u017e odkr\u00e1\u010del a z auta p\u0159inesl lahev v\u00edna.<\/p>\n

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Postavil ji p\u0159ed ni a pravil: \u201eTak tady m\u00e1\u0161 jednu jenom pro sebe\u201c<\/p>\n

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Je to p\u011bt let a \u0161lo to od deseti k p\u011bti.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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8.3. ji zkopal tak, \u017ee je na kapa\u010dk\u00e1ch.<\/p>\n

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Ale konec dobr\u00fd, v\u0161echno dobr\u00e9.<\/p>\n

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Podala trestn\u00ed ozn\u00e1men\u00ed a kolek na \u017e\u00e1dost o rozvod jsme koupili za ni.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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M\u00ed\u0161a K.<\/em><\/p>\n

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Views: 25Napadalo m\u011b, \u017ee by v\u00e1s tohle t\u00e9ma k rann\u00ed k\u00e1v\u011b a sou\u010dasn\u011b na v\u00edkend t\u0159eba mohlo zaj\u00edmat. Je to toti\u017e pom\u011brn\u011b z\u00e1va\u017en\u00e9, i kdy\u017e ne ne\u0159e\u0161iteln\u00e9.   Zav\u010dasu se to d\u00e1 \u0159e\u0161it \u00fat\u011bkem, p\u0159eru\u0161en\u00edm kontaktu, nebo prost\u011b vyh\u00fdb\u00e1n\u00ed se takov\u00e9mu modelu.   Tedy pokud nejste \u017eulov\u00fd kv\u00e1dr, kter\u00fd to d\u00e1, nebo porcel\u00e1nov\u00e1 panenka, po kter\u00e9 […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[22],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-9289","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-ranni-kavy"],"aioseo_notices":[],"aioseo_head":"\n\t\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t