{"id":13175,"date":"2020-09-11T10:06:38","date_gmt":"2020-09-11T08:06:38","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/popelky.cz\/pokus_sablona\/?p=13175"},"modified":"2020-09-14T10:19:42","modified_gmt":"2020-09-14T08:19:42","slug":"zda-se-vam-ze-vychova-deti-nefunguje-a-vite-proc-odmitaji-pomahat-rodicum","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/popelky.cz\/verze7-0\/rodina-a-drobotina\/zda-se-vam-ze-vychova-deti-nefunguje-a-vite-proc-odmitaji-pomahat-rodicum.html","title":{"rendered":"Zd\u00e1 se v\u00e1m, \u017ee v\u00fdchova d\u011bt\u00ed nefunguje? A v\u00edte, pro\u010d odm\u00edtaj\u00ed pom\u00e1hat rodi\u010d\u016fm?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Views: 259<\/p>

V\u00fdchova d\u011bt\u00ed m\u016f\u017ee na prvn\u00ed pohled vypadat jako hra\u010dka. Ale ka\u017ed\u00fd, kdo m\u00e1 potomka nebo s d\u011btmi pracuje, dob\u0159e v\u00ed, jak je tento \u00fakol n\u00e1ro\u010dn\u00fd. I hodn\u00e9 d\u011bti toti\u017e um\u00ed po\u0159\u00e1dn\u011b zlobit, nav\u00edc v pr\u016fb\u011bhu d\u011btstv\u00ed a dosp\u00edv\u00e1n\u00ed proch\u00e1zej\u00ed obvykle hned n\u011bkolika obdob\u00edmi vzdoru. A nejedn\u00e1 se jen o v\u0161emi rodi\u010di ob\u00e1vanou pubertu; v\u00edce \u010di m\u00e9n\u011b n\u00e1ro\u010dn\u00e9 b\u00fdvaj\u00ed i dal\u0161\u00ed etapy. Obvykle p\u0159ich\u00e1zej\u00ed ve chv\u00edli, kdy u d\u00edt\u011bte do\u0161lo k v\u00fdrazn\u011bj\u0161\u00edmu posunu ve v\u00fdvoji.<\/p>\n

A zat\u00edmco se radujete, \u017ee je va\u0161e dcera \u010di syn kone\u010dn\u011b o n\u011bco rozumn\u011bj\u0161\u00ed, zni\u010dehonic naraz\u00edte na ne\u010dekan\u00e9 a nev\u00edtan\u00e9 reakce na dosud zcela kladn\u011b p\u0159ij\u00edman\u00e9 jedn\u00e1n\u00ed.<\/p>\n

V\u00fdchova d\u011bt\u00ed m\u016f\u017ee v\u00fdrazn\u011b ovlivnit jejich \u017eivotn\u00ed dr\u00e1hu<\/h3>\n

D\u011bti jsou na\u0161e budoucnost, proto se jim sna\u017e\u00edme vytvo\u0159it co nejlep\u0161\u00ed podm\u00ednky. To se t\u00fdk\u00e1 jak materi\u00e1ln\u00edho z\u00e1zem\u00ed, tak i celkov\u00e9ho du\u0161evn\u00edho a fyzick\u00e9ho rozvoje. Chceme, aby dob\u0159e obst\u00e1ly ve spole\u010dnosti, dos\u00e1hly vyhovuj\u00edc\u00edho vzd\u011bl\u00e1n\u00ed a pot\u00e9 se zvl\u00e1dly co nejsn\u00e1ze postavit na vlastn\u00ed nohy. <\/p>\n

A pr\u00e1v\u011b spr\u00e1vn\u011b pojat\u00e1 v\u00fdchova d\u011bt\u00ed jim d\u00e1v\u00e1 ty nejlep\u0161\u00ed p\u0159edpoklady k tomu, aby obst\u00e1ly v nejr\u016fzn\u011bj\u0161\u00edch \u017eivotn\u00edch zkou\u0161k\u00e1ch, nedost\u00e1valy se do zbyte\u010dn\u00fdch konflikt\u016f v mezilidsk\u00fdch vztaz\u00edch a dok\u00e1zaly zalo\u017eit funguj\u00edc\u00ed a spokojenou vlastn\u00ed rodinu.<\/p>\n

D\u00edt\u011b, kter\u00e9 je vystavov\u00e1no zbyte\u010dn\u00e9mu tlaku a opakovan\u011b zaznamen\u00e1v\u00e1 ze strany bl\u00edzk\u00fdch dosp\u011bl\u00fdch nef\u00e9rov\u00e9, p\u0159\u00edpadn\u011b dokonce krut\u00e9 jedn\u00e1n\u00ed, se nez\u0159\u00eddka stane frustrovan\u00fdm dosp\u011bl\u00fdm. Nezvl\u00e1dnut\u00e1 v\u00fdchova d\u011bt\u00ed m\u016f\u017ee m\u00edt za n\u00e1sledek \u00fazkostn\u00e9 stavy, deprese, nejr\u016fzn\u011bj\u0161\u00ed poruchy chov\u00e1n\u00ed, alkoholismus, u\u017e\u00edv\u00e1n\u00ed drog a dal\u0161\u00ed psychick\u00e9 i soci\u00e1ln\u00ed poruchy.<\/p>\n

A tyto probl\u00e9my se mohou objevovat dlouhou \u0159adu let, dokonce i po cel\u00fd \u017eivot.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"Proc<\/p>\n

Pro\u010d v\u00fdchova n\u011bkdy nefunguje a pro\u010d d\u011bti nepom\u00e1haj\u00ed?<\/h3>\n

Za\u010dalo v\u00e1m d\u00edt\u011b z ni\u010deho nic odmlouvat, vztek\u00e1 se a odm\u00edt\u00e1 plnit \u00fakoly, kter\u00e9 mu zad\u00e1v\u00e1te, p\u0159esto\u017ee se jim doposud v\u011bnovalo s radost\u00ed? Pak zjevn\u011b nastal okam\u017eik, kdy je t\u0159eba zm\u011bnit p\u0159\u00edstup. Osv\u011bd\u010den\u00e9 metody prost\u011b p\u0159estaly fungovat a je \u00fapln\u011b jedno, zda se s probl\u00e9my pot\u00fdk\u00e1te v roli matky, babi\u010dky, u\u010ditelky nebo p\u0159i hl\u00edd\u00e1n\u00ed d\u00edt\u011bte v dob\u011b, kdy se jeho rodi\u010de v\u011bnuj\u00ed jin\u00fdm povinnostem. To sam\u00e9 samoz\u0159ejm\u011b plat\u00ed i pro otce a dal\u0161\u00ed mu\u017ee, kte\u0159\u00ed jsou zapojeni do v\u00fdchovy d\u00edt\u011bte. Kdy\u017e d\u00edt\u011b odm\u00edt\u00e1 pom\u00e1hat, za\u010dne b\u00fdt drz\u00e9, p\u0159\u00edpadn\u011b dokonce propad\u00e1 vzteku, v \u017e\u00e1dn\u00e9m p\u0159\u00edpad\u011b to neberte osobn\u011b. H\u00e1dky a nekontrolovan\u00e9 reakce z va\u0161\u00ed strany rozhodn\u00e9 nepomohou.<\/p>\n

Koneckonc\u016f kdy\u017e k sob\u011b budete opravdu up\u0159\u00edmn\u00e1, zjist\u00edte, \u017ee sama n\u011bkdy nepln\u00edte prosby a \u017e\u00e1dosti d\u00edt\u011bte. <\/strong><\/p>\n

M\u00edv\u00e1te k tomu pravd\u011bpodobn\u011b dobr\u00e9 d\u016fvody, kter\u00e9 ov\u0161em d\u00edt\u011b nech\u00e1pe. A funguje to i obr\u00e1cen\u011b. Bari\u00e9ra vz\u00e1jemn\u00e9ho neporozum\u011bn\u00ed pak mezi v\u00e1mi vytv\u00e1\u0159\u00ed bari\u00e9ru, kterou je \u017e\u00e1douc\u00ed co nejd\u0159\u00edve odstranit. Jestli se v\u00e1m uvnit\u0159 oz\u00fdv\u00e1 hl\u00e1sek, kter\u00fd \u0159\u00edk\u00e1: \u201eNeum\u00edm vychovat d\u00edt\u011b,\u201c za\u010dn\u011bte analyzovat p\u0159\u00ed\u010diny ne\u017e\u00e1douc\u00edch situac\u00ed<\/a>. A p\u0159istupujte k probl\u00e9mu s klidem a rozvahou.<\/p>\n

Jednou z \u010dast\u00fdch p\u0159\u00ed\u010din neposlu\u0161nosti je va\u0161e ned\u016fv\u011bra v schopnosti d\u00edt\u011bte<\/h3>\n

Sl\u00fdch\u00e1te od d\u00edt\u011bte n\u00e1mitky ve chv\u00edli, kdy mu p\u0159i pr\u00e1ci ud\u011blujete dob\u0159e m\u00edn\u011bn\u00e9 rady? Zkuste mu dop\u0159\u00e1t v\u00edce prostoru a nechte ho, aby si samo na\u0161lo svou cestu. Mo\u017en\u00e1 se v\u00e1m zd\u00e1, \u017ee jsou va\u0161e p\u0159ipom\u00ednky zcela konstruktivn\u00ed. A pravd\u011bpodobn\u011b m\u00e1te pravdu. Hol\u00fd fakt ale je, \u017ee d\u011bti pot\u0159ebuj\u00ed ponechat dostatek prostoru k objevov\u00e1n\u00ed. Maj\u00ed-li ho, m\u016f\u017ee se i z relativn\u011b nudn\u00e9ho a rutinn\u00edho \u00fakolu st\u00e1t skv\u011bl\u00e9 dobrodru\u017estv\u00ed. A po jeho \u00fasp\u011b\u0161n\u00e9m dokon\u010den\u00ed se dostavuje sladk\u00e1 odm\u011bna v podob\u011b pocitu v\u00edt\u011bzstv\u00ed. Samoz\u0159ejm\u011b je zcela na m\u00edst\u011b, kdy\u017e navrhnete postup, d\u00edt\u011b spr\u00e1vn\u011b nasm\u011brujete a vytvo\u0159\u00edte ur\u010dit\u00fd r\u00e1mec, v jeho\u017e mez\u00edch m\u00e1 danou pr\u00e1ci prov\u00e9st.<\/p>\n

\"DSC<\/p>\n

Ale nest\u016fjte nad n\u00edm, nesypejte ze sebe p\u0159ipom\u00ednky jednu za druhou. A hlavn\u011b nekritizujte. Uvid\u00edte, \u017ee d\u00edt\u011b zvl\u00e1dne vyn\u00e9st odpadky, um\u00fdt n\u00e1dob\u00ed, vyluxovat \u010di slo\u017eit pr\u00e1dlo i bez nep\u0159etr\u017eit\u00e9ho p\u0159\u00edsn\u00e9ho dohledu. Napoprv\u00e9 to asi nebude zcela perfektn\u00ed, ale chv\u00e1lu a pod\u011bkov\u00e1n\u00ed si ur\u010dit\u011b zaslou\u017e\u00ed. Nav\u00edc se v n\u011bm probud\u00ed odvaha pou\u0161t\u011bt se do dal\u0161\u00edch v\u011bc\u00ed. A drobn\u00e9 nedostatky se s va\u0161\u00ed pomoc\u00ed postupem \u010dasu dolad\u00ed.<\/p>\n

Ov\u0161em za p\u0159edpokladu, \u017ee sv\u00e9 p\u0159ipom\u00ednky budete p\u0159edkl\u00e1dat citliv\u011b.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"03<\/p>\n

Jak \u0159e\u0161it dal\u0161\u00ed situace, kter\u00e9 s sebou nese v\u00fdchova d\u011bt\u00ed?<\/h3>\n

Nar\u00e1\u017e\u00edte na dal\u0161\u00ed v\u011bci, kter\u00e9 rozhodn\u011b nejsou optim\u00e1ln\u00ed, a nev\u00edte, co si po\u010d\u00edt? Nemus\u00edte hned nav\u0161t\u00edvit psychologa, inspiraci najdete i na internetu. Pro\u010dt\u011bte si \u010dl\u00e1nky na t\u00e9ma jak vychov\u00e1vat d\u00edt\u011b<\/a> a z\u00edskan\u00e9 poznatky aplikujte v praxi. Uvid\u00edte, \u017ee se va\u0161e vztahy brzy zlep\u0161\u00ed.<\/p>\n

Zpracovala: Placla<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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